If you’re in a relationship when you leave high school, let her go, man. Seriously. If you don’t, you’re just gonna do it when one of you’s at Connecticut College and the other is at NYU. You should’ve learned this in biology. We’re not meant to settle down when we’re so young. Seriously, give your loved one one last kiss. If it’s meant to be, you’ll come back together with your own money in your checking account and a lot of more experience under your belt. Nothing’s more attractive than confidence. Why am I telling you this? Because it’s time to work. It’s time to figure out what you want to do. It’s time to hustle. You can’t hustle if you’re sneaking off every 2 hours to talk to your boo. I know, my advice sucks, right? It’s cool, you’ll get it. You’re young. You got your whole 20s ahead of you. Go your separate ways. Relationships only work when as an individual, you feel your life is up to par. When you feel like it’s all it can be without someone else to complement it.
One thing I do know about intimacy is that there are certain natural laws which govern the sexual experience of two people, and that these laws cannot be budged any more than gravity can be negotiated with. To feel physically comfortable with someone else’s body is not a decision you can make. It has very little to do with how two people think or act or talk or even look. The mysterious magnet is either there, buried somewhere deep behind the sternum, or it is not. When it isn’t there (as I have learned in the past, with heartbreaking clarity) you can no more force it to exist than a surgeon can force a patient’s body to accept a kidney from the wrong donor. My friend Annie says it all comes down to one simple question: ‘Do you want your belly pressed against this person’s belly forever —or not?’
When you date someone, it’s like you’re taking a class in them and when you break up, it’s like all that knowledge is useless. It’s the emotional equivalent of an English degree.
Josh Radnor, How I Met Your Mother (via quoteworld)
Source: quoteworld
Look at all these people, these normal, non-traumatised people - in relationships, in love.
Adam Brody, The O.C.
If someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll be there. So don’t bother saving a spot for someone who won’t make an effort to stay.
Michael Cera
No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot..
Sarah Dessen, This Lullaby
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.
Ann Landers
Come, let’s be a comfortable couple and take care of each other! How glad we shall be, that we have somebody we are fond of always, to talk to and sit with.
Charles Dickens
And I was — this is just how I was afraid you’d take it. I knew it, that you’d think this means you were right to be afraid all the time and never feel secure or trust me. I knew it’d be ‘See, you’re leaving after all when you promised you wouldn’t.’ I knew it but I’m trying to explain anyway, okay? And I know you probably won’t understand this either, but —wait— just try to listen and maybe absorb this, okay? Ready? Me leaving is not the confirmation of all your fears about me. It is not. It’s because of them. Okay? Can you see that? It’s your fear I can’t take. It’s your distrust and fear I’ve been trying to fight. And I can’t anymore. I’m out of gas on it. If I loved you even a little less maybe I could take it. But this is killing me, this constant feeling that I am always scaring you and never making you feel secure. Can you see that?
David Foster Wallace, Brief Interviews with Hideous Men
I understand why a woman thinks a man is better than nothing. I will just never understand why she thinks she’s got nothing.
Joshua Malina, Sport’s Night
When you have been with someone for so many years, they become the glove compartment map that you’ve worn dog-eared and white creased, the trail you recognize so well you could draw it by heart and for this very reason keep it with you on journeys at all times. And yet, when you least expect it, one day you open your eyes and there is an unfamiluar turnoff, a vantage point that wasn’t there before, and you have to stop and wonder if maybe this landmark isn’t new at all, but rather something you have missed all along.
Jodi Picoult
Everybody’s alone. It’s just easier to take in a relationship.
Greg Germann, Ally McBeal
We were a mess together. We were a beautiful mess.
Ben Kingsley, The Wackness
Life’s better with company. Everybody needs a co-pilot.
George Clooney, Up in the Air
In your life you meet people, some you never think about again, some you wonder what happened to them, there are some that you wonder if they ever think about you and then there are some you wish you never had to think about again … but you do.
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